When parents hire a new nanny or a nanny starts a new position, the first couple of weeks are typically filled with excitement as everyone adjusts to the new routine. However, around the two-week mark, the honeymoon period often starts to fade. Both parties may begin noticing things that make them uncomfortable. This phenomenon is sometimes called the “two-week itch.” How can parents and nannies gracefully navigate this tricky time while maintaining professionalism and mutual respect?

The “itch” stems from realising there are challenges you didn’t anticipate. Differences in childcare approaches may become apparent. Or it could be as simple as clashing personalities. While open communication can resolve some issues, sometimes the arrangement is just not a good fit.

The Dilemma of Giving Notice

In our fast-paced world, decisions need to be made quickly. If the nanny wants to find another job or the parents feel the need to find a new nanny, it’s crucial to remember the terms of the work agreement. Although a probation period may allow for short notice like one week, transparency is always best.

Communicating Professionally

1. Written Notice: While not required, explaining the reasons can clear the air. Whether you explain or not, make sure the notice is in writing for clarity and records.
2. Honest Dialogue: Though difficult, discussing the reasons behind ending the work arrangement can sometimes lead to unexpected solutions. Understanding is the first step toward potential compromises.
3. Mind the Timing: Choose a time with minimal distractions, avoiding right before heading out or when kids are present. This ensures an in-depth discussion.

Navigating the Notice Period

After notice is given, the environment may be tense due to the implied personal rejection. Both parties may struggle with self-doubt, mistrust, or even resentment. Yet for the sake of the children and upholding professional ethics, it’s vital to maintain a courteous relationship.

Keep in mind, future references may consider how this period went. As an employer, if you are terminating the contract, make sure the nanny understands the reasons, especially if they will be part of a verbal reference.

The “two-week itch” is a pivotal point in the nanny-family relationship. It requires patience, understanding, and open communication to handle well. With mutual respect and professionalism, this tricky time can become a stepping stone to a productive partnership rather than a relationship-ending challenge.